QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF
WHEN YOU THINK
YOU'VE MET "THE ONE"

1. How does this person respond when they're disappointed?
2. How does this person act when they're cross or irritated?
3. What interests do we have in common?
4. How is our time together affecting our future goals?
5. How does this person treat older people? children? my parents? my friends?
6. What plans does this person have for their own future?
7. How does this person talk about previous partners (dating or sexual)?
8. What kind of relationship does this person have with their family?
9. What are this person's beliefs about marriage? Divorce? God? Sex outside of marriage? Money? Children?
10. What relationships with older or mature people does this person rely on to help them make life-decisions?
11. What character qualities does this person have that I want in my life?
12. If we broke up, how would I feel about this person finding love with someone else?
13. What level of sexual intimacy has this person already experienced with previous partners?
14. How do I feel about myself after I have spent time with this person?
15. How does this person demonstrate concern for my well-being? Do they take unnecessary risks?
16. When I talk about this person, do I find myself trying to excuse or explain their behavior?
17. When I'm with this person, do I feel accepted just the way I am, or do they want me to change?
18. When I have made a mistake, how do I feel about sharing it with this person?
19. How does this person treat others who can't do them any good?
20. If I didn't look the same, how would this person treat me?